I can totally see what
@Solomon describes happening. There's really nothing in the game that prepares new players for that first horde night experiance in 7dtd.
Imo his group didn't do anything "wrong", they simply had no idea what the game was going to throw at them.
That said, I really wish I could have a bit of selective amnesia to experiance again, for the first time, that first horde night.
I recall building a tiny little shack out in the woods with just upgraded wooden doors, walls and hatches over the windows and a ladder up to the roof for my first horde. Imagine how that went, lol.
My advice would be to -not- watch any vids. Have a bit of faith that it is possible to 'win' and keep trying new/different things.
The satisfaction of solving a problem is directly related to the difficulty of said problem after all.
However. Early Alpha 17 experimental would have
seriously pissed me off had that been my first time playing 7dtd.
If you listen to
@Ralathar44s commentary in the first vid he linked, and take in how much effort went into that base, for just the first horde night(!), it will give you an idea that actually TFPs have really toned down the early hordes in a18 and, it appears, even a bit more in a19.
A comparison a19exp vid
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yi-vt5j0Yv8
I built a base very similar to the third one shown in the vid in early a17 experimental, but it also had a huge wooden spike field under it. It didn't last long. In PriMates vid the a19 zeds barely touch the poles. I was quite suprised as the AI did/is-supposed-to(?) get pissed if there isn't a path and start taking out supports.
So view it as a challenge, one that you -can- overcome, put the ole noggin in gear and get to work.