PvP is for people with something to overcompensate for. Just like inadequate people like to fight IRL. Be a true PIMP and play co-op or SP.
There are no other options.
Not sure if trolling or not. If not, then this is quite the harsh generalization of competitive gaming and perhaps competitive activities in general(?).
There is value in competition (even unfriendly competition) and saying something like what you just said, to me seems like a feeble attempt at denying that fact of life. It's condescending as ♥♥♥♥ and frankly just bigoted.
This btw coming from someone who can't handle competition well at all times and tends to avoid it repeatedly and still is able to appreciate the good things it can bring. Sportsmanship. Courage. Personal growth.
Your statement probably applies to a large chunk of, but not all PvPers. I won't deny there's a lot of cancerous people out there, who maybe have a tiny ♥♥♥♥, or a dad that beats them to sleep every night, or whatever. It's hard, but not too hard for a good admin/mod team to identify such individuals and remove them from the game, so the adults can have fun.
So again to all those complaining about griefers, but still not afraid of competitive gameplay:
Look for a decent server with a sensible rule set and active staff enforcing the rules impartially.
Look for servers that have frequent backups of the game world, so in case a griefer slips through, lost work can be restored.
Or go the safe route and only PvP with your friends on your own terms altogether.