I looked at the OPs history, and the OP does seem to have experience with the game, but isnt enjoying things passed a16.4. I think that person has found the version they like so I guess we can just say enjoy that version. Maybe try it again in a20.
Yeah, I play with on a private server with anywhere from 1 to 6 buds, depending on who is online at the time.Personally, I enjoy A19 quite a bit. The biggest problem I've run into is finding a crucible (which I ended up finding around day 40). Only thing that is really missing for me is actual people to play with.
Food can be scarce at the start, but as other said just loot kitchens and do buried supplies for food and recipes (or put a point in master chef if you are desperate). If you find Bob's boar and have the grilled steak recipe, you are set for days.