Just to add on to what meganoth said, you have a choice of what server(s) to use when playing the game on a dedicated server. Not every server is going to update immediately. That's entirely up to the servers and TFP doesn't run the servers, so has no say in that. If your server updates immediately without waiting, then it may be time to look for a different server that is more console-friendly. Or rent your own that you can control.
TFP releases console versions at the same time as PC versions. They don't release PC first. TFP can't control when Microsoft or Sony make those available, however. Steam releases updates right away, but consoles take time. Microsoft is especially bad with making updates available for XBox (including XBox through PC), at one point taking about a week to make it available. That isn't something TFP can do much about. If they try to offset it by releasing console first, they'd still end up with PS available before XBox since Microsoft is so slow and you'd still have those problems. It wouldn't be worth it.