Think I fixed it, had to copy the command line from my single player config and paste it onto the multiplayer config. Now I see it when I join the server. Somebody should post a sticky for all the people renting servers that will have to do this .
I'm looting trash cans, trash piles, dumpster's, cabinets and getting all kinds of good stuff. Stuff I never would have looted before, so yea it is more exciting.