What do you mean by wireless? If you're using a router, then you can change it through your routers settings. If you use mobile hotspot, then I think moderate is best you can do.
I changed mine through my router. Pretty simple to do...
It sounds like the issue may be related to your NAT. I had similar issues playing ARK. Once I changed NAT to open, issues resolved.
https://support.xbox.com/en-AU/help/hardware-network/connect-network/xbox-one-nat-error#:~:text=Can your Xbox console connect,Network Address Translation (NAT).